Separation Anxiety is probably what I’m going through now. The munchkins officially entered Playgroup 2 days ago. The past 2 mornings while they were away, I had to plan things to do and get my mind/time filled with chores (i.e. housekeeping, marketing, run errands, etc.), just so I could be distracted from that awful feeling of “losing my kids” when I’m actually the one losing my mind.
Gong-Gong (my dad) is probably suffering from the same "disease" as me. I suspect so because he kept “appearing” at our home the past 2 weeks, taking a share of the quality time which I’m trying my best to spend with the kids. Anyway, to keep Gong-Gong occupied, I have already made arrangements with the Playgroup staff to release the munchkins 2 hours earlier every Friday. That would be Gong-Gong’s weekly playdate with them.
On the other hand, I’m also kind of relieved that the girls are settling down pretty well in school. En, in particular, adapted so well, she took all of us by surprise. She cried for a mere 30 seconds then proceeded to play with toys on her first day. She was also seen holding the hands of a teacher whom she wasn’t introduced to previously. Still waters run deep indeed!!!
Xuan, on the other hand, wailed so loudly for nearly an hour. I pitied the staff but it was really out of my hands. Di, Ya Ya and I were watching them from outside the school because we agreed not to accompany the munchkins right from the start, so they could adapt faster. This is truly a matter of "letting go and letting God"!
Then we saw a huge improvement in Xuan on the second day because she only wailed for a good 7 minutes, and she performed even better today – 3 minutes. My guess is she will continue to throw a tantrum every morning but the duration will get shorter each day. Hopefully the wailing will stop by the end of the second week.
Alright, that's all for updates for now. Gotta go… Time to find some errands to keep myself occupied before the thought of the munchkins fill my mind again. Ciao!
3 comments:
Hi Faith,
I don't think it is easy for you at all to let go all of a sudden but I am sure in time you will learn to enjoy the little time each day you have for yourself.
I'm glad that the twins are having fun during playgroup.
I dread the day Isaac has to attend one and has to wail for an hour. Not sure if my heart can take it.
Hi Dylan
If I were to read the last para above few weeks ago, I'd wonder why on earth is it so hard for fathers to handle that one hour when the kiddos wail on their first day in school.
After my girls' first day, I witnessed how my husband (who initially insisted the girls should start full day playgroup right away) nearly cave in after Xuan wailed for 20 minutes. He was pacing up and down outside the school and at one point, wanted to request to enter the class to intervene. I was like " Hello??? Weren't you the one who ask me not to be too soft hearted and persever from day one???"
Its indeed easier said than done. Believe me. It is much easier to walk away, go for a cuppa nearby and ask the staff to call you if necessary. When you're done with your morning coffee/tea after 90 minutes, return to take a peep. More often than not, you'll find your kid "monkeying" around by then. :)
Good advice from an experience mother. I will try and remember that on that day. Have a cuppa!
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